Shown above is the famous Nike logo which has a caption, “Just do it”! We have to do many things on day to day basis, and Nike says, just do it! Some say I have to do it! Others say, got to do it! Obviously, you cannot say, “Just do it”! Nike will ask you to buy a license from them to use their patented caption! These small changes in the use of words can make a significant difference in our lives.
When we say we have to do it, it shows a bit of displeasure, some reluctance and the feel as if you are forced to do something. Everybody has to get up every day, go to the washroom, complete the morning stuff and then go for work and come back home in the evening. There are many things that we do in between.
How will this small change in English word help? It changes the way we look at things, it changes your approach to any situation. When you say we have to do something, it indicates that you are forced to do something. It is against your will that you are doing something.
There is a story about a man who uses a wheelchair. When asked if it was difficult being confined to the wheelchair, he responded, “I’m not confined to my wheelchair—I am liberated by it. If it weren’t for my wheelchair, I would be bed-bound and never able to leave my house.” This shift in perspective completely transformed how he lived each day. A few years back when we had taken Alaska cruise, we met two people. One grand old lady was 99 years young, traveling alone, on a wheelchair! Another outstanding personality was around 50 years of age, also on a wheelchair. He needed 100% oxygen support. These two people were moving all over the cruise and on the ground excursions in a very routine manner! Perspective?
I think it’s important to remind yourself that the things you do each day are not burdens, they are opportunities. So often, the things we view as work are actually the reward.
Embrace your constraints. Fall in love with boredom. Do the work.
The other day I heard a young child, 5 years old, say “I am bored, I don’t want to go to school”. The first thing that came to mind was how does this child know the word bored? Simple, she has heard someone say it. On prodding, I found out that she was actually sad that her close friend was not going to school that day due to illness. In today’s times, those working can be very busy, and they really don’t have free time. In such a situation, how do they find time to get bored? They get bored because they “have” to do things and not “got” to do things! It is the perception of how one looks at things. The busy people of today can never get bored due to lack of time, but those who have retired may get bored as there is so much time available. But does one really get bored?
Can retired people get bored? Let me share with you how I do not get bored! I semi-retired from work starting first June, 2018. My first 3 months were required in winding down my affairs along with handling some property matters. I started going to a gym; when I don’t go to the gym, I go for my walk! Then there is my blogging. The frequency of my blog writing has gone up. Along with blog writing, I am also trying to improve my writing skills. I have even started reading printed books for which I did not find time while I was working full time. (I am a voracious reader using Kindle) I have been doing coordination of our alumni group which I continue. These are honestly minor things. What I do in the morning is that I prepare a to-do list. Those items which need personal involvement like payment etc., are added to my electronic diary. I automatically get reminders. But the most important is I “don’t have to them”! I “got to do them”. I make my got to do list in mind or write with my left hand sometimes; I am a right-hander. I always try to learn something new! I try to know new people!
The paragraph was not about me, but it is about everybody and anybody. It is about the perception of looking at things. The less you enjoy doing your stuff, the more you are stressed, or suddenly you will find that you have time to get bored. Let me share with you experiences of a few “oldies” like me. I am 69. When asked my age, I say that my age is 69! I sometimes enjoy taking practical advantages of my age. Like when we went to get our passport renewed, senior citizens could walk in, they didn’t have to take appointment route. Air India for internal travel offers 50% discount on base ticket amount, I use the facility. Sometimes there are separate check-in counters, I use them. But I am never 69 years old! It’s a state of mind.
I was curious to see how my friends who are 50-plus defined old — and asked them on Facebook. Among the dozens of responses, two made me smile: “Old is my current age + 4.” And said another “Tomorrow. Always tomorrow. Never today.”
Given below is what I read in an article.
As with beauty, the meaning of “old” also depends on the person you ask. Millennials, now in their 20s and 30s, say that old starts at 59, according to a 2017 study by U.S. Trust. Gen Xers, now in their 40s — and no doubt with a new appreciation for just how close they are to entering their 50s — say 65 is the onset of old. Boomers and the Greatest Generation (Like me) pegged 73 as the beginning of old. Clearly, much depends on the perspective of who’s been asking to define “old.”
But yes, there are some of my friends who need to be coaxed to come for a breakfast or a luncheon meeting. Dinner for many is out of bounds. That is because they are not comfortable to drive at night. When I suggest car pooling with those who are comfortable driving at night, a small number agrees. Others have become mentally old though we all are of the same age. Maybe they also feel that they “have” to do it!
This mind set is found in people who “have” to do things and who don’t get to do things. Oh! I HAVE to go to sleep now!