The other day, I was speaking with my friend Sudhakar about a blog I had written. Many friends discuss my blogs with me, and I like it when others write their opinion. These interactions activate my brain cells to think further. Different views make me understand how others feel about the subject. My blog is unimportant to me, but the discussions are critical. These discussions help me to think more broadly.
Sudhakar asked me if I get exhausted after I complete a blog! Honestly, I do not know. My favourite subject is human relationships and human interactions. I write on different topics, but these are the topics which I enjoy, the most. But recently some of the blogs I have written have been tough to handle for me too! The subjects have been difficult like the pandemic, resetting of life, Corona experience of my family member living in London. I came to know yesterday, that another family member living in Singapore was in-home quarantine as his colleague in the office was found positive. Usually, our thinking is that accidents, cancer and heart attack happen to someone else and in some other families. We feel that we are always safe. But the moment events hit our family, we realise that nobody is safe in this world against such occurrences. There is solace that this is part of nature. These events bring to our mind the fact that a hundred years in human life is not even a blip on the big canvas. Yes, I do get exhausted when the subject handled is tough. Sometimes, I get incredibly irritated too!
Human mind and body are the ultimate designs created by Him. Sometimes we feel that we are superior or bigger than Him! But do not forget that it is He who has shaped our mind; we can think that “We are the Best”! It is like a democracy where each person can express his views, but that person must fall in line with the bigger picture. Let us go back to my blogs.
Sachin Tendulkar played his first innings in one day international as an opener against new Zeland. It was a life-changing event for him.
Sonu Nigam similarly has a life-changing song displayed below from the movie Pardes. He feels that it is his iconic song!
On similar lines, I can claim (ahem) that “Dance of Civilisation” is my iconic blog. Okay, am I bragging by comparing me with two greats? Friends many times tell me that I am a show-off, anyway!
On a serious note, I used to totter in those days when I wrote my blogs. But when I wrote the title “Dance of Civilisation”, I knew how I was going to complete the blog. The idea had come to my mind to slow down the time to match my granddaughter Rhea’s speed- she was two years old. The journey involved from home to the Mandir and back was a five-minute journey. We used to extend it to forty-five minutes! I started absorbing the happenings around. I had started enjoying that journey with her by slowing down my speed by meandering instead of making a quick visit to the Mandir. I began to understand the meaning of slowing down; over a period, I have learnt this art of slow journey.
It also reflects in some other blogs like “Do nothing Holiday”, and “Montreal Musings” (five blogs). Is it worth rushing into everything? Is it necessary? Do I want to eat my Alphonso Mango in a jiffy or I should enjoy it at leisure? Rush. Rush and rush has been the name of the game for the last 30 years at least. But why? Why are we always in a hurry? Writing the “Dance of Civilisation” blog did not tire me; it showed me a path of slowing things down.
There have been some obituaries. These are about some public entities and some persons who were personally dear to me! While writing obituaries, there was a bit of sadness- most had lived a reasonably long life except Sridevi. While writing these blogs, I reminisced in the old times about the joys these people had given me, the guidance they had given me. By this time, I was old enough to know that everyone must go at some stage! Luckily in the case of Mr Sen, I could meet him at his grandson’s marriage reception, a few days before he died. In the case of Maheshbhai, Jaya and I met him and Nauka in Bombay home for almost an hour, a couple of months before his death. It reminded me of my chat sessions with him in Aurangabad and our visits to Tara Paan house in Aurangabad. When people close to you pass, it is best to remember good times with them and enjoy them.
I have taken many journeys to my school days, Dhobi Talao days and COEP days. These travels back in time, always refresh and rejuvenate me. I remember many old friends, events, stupidities and fun. I am sure all of us have this phase in life, and enjoy the times shared with these friends from old times. It saddens you when you come to know that your long lost friend is at a stage where you will never want even your enemy to be! Recently I came to know about a friend who is psychologically shattered. Such events show you that in the best times of our lives, childhood, we never imagined which path our friends will find during their lives. A friend became alcoholic- he tended to be risky in childhood too. But the friend mentioned above could be called an average person, was dealt a lousy hand by destiny. Even at the age of 70, I find it difficult to accept this situation.
I was surprised when Sudhakar asked me if I get tired after completing a blog. After thinking in leisure, I admittedly feel some emotions, including feeling exhausted. That is the initial reaction but, in the end, what I get is a feeling of satisfaction and achievement. I get this feeling when I can write some blogs in one go! When I write about certain subjects, I know from within me how the blog will come out. But sometimes, I am not so sure, but at some stage during writing, things click in mind. Then I know that I am through! I get intuition when I am writing some blogs, but in some cases, I plod!
I knew why Sudhakar asked me this question. He is a prolific painter- he is also a civil engineer! For him, the painting is a new creation, every time. In my case, I can delete and rewrite a few sentences or even paragraphs. But while painting, I don’t think that is possible. The limitation must be exhausting Sudhakar, every time he completes his painting.
A painting by Sudhakar on Ramnavami!