Who is the best doctor for you?

Best doctor is NO doctor!

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During a discussion about a surgery of a 91-year-old gentleman, a question was raised, how will his body handle this surgery? His physician was confident and his surgeon, a urinary expert, said he will perform laser surgery. The surgery was performed and a couple of days later the gentleman is recovering well. His surgery team also included an anesthetist. The surgery was nothing complex and for a younger person it would have been a routine surgery. Due to age the situation was a little more complex. But this team apparently was good, confident and more importantly must have handled such complications due to age, before. This last factor is very important.

Our body is a complex organism, on top of that, every individuals body behaves differently, reacts differently. When this surgery was discussed during a conversation with someone else, not from Pune, that person asked a question. Why with similar issues a person from their family was not being operated upon? This is a very valid question, but it also depends on the team of doctors who look after the patient. Such laser surgeries are performed in various cities now. This is not about competence of the team but there is a possibility that this team has never performed such surgeries on old patients. This other person is 80 plus and is suffering from the same issue. The surgeon may be confident, but physician may have different views. But the question is why this option is not even discussed about this patient. Performing or not performing any procedure will depend on different parameters but the most important is specific experience of the team of doctors in that area.

Another person I know about has been having heart issues since last several years. Recently when the person had major health crisis, the person was taken to a large hospital. Looking at the criticality, the experts decided to perform angioplasty as a last resort. This plasty improved the patient’s health many folds. The question arises why this procedure was not done several years back; this problem has been existing for years, but doctors in those times took a decision that angioplasty can not be done. Again, it boils down to the experience of the team to perform such procedures or it is about their opinion and decision not to perform angioplasty in that situation.

A friend of ours has been having health issues, she is same age as me. She was taking treatment from a physician. Once the friend said that she wanted to get herself checked by our physician. Checking was done, all tests were performed. Body parameters from previous tests and current tests were similar. But her previous physician had told her that everything was hunky dory though it was not. The results were so obviously out of range, even a non-medical guy could understand that she needed more control on her parameters. Why did this happen? I am sure that the previous doctor also had his views or may be his treatment is different. So, treatment again depends on the knowledge, experience of the doctors who treat you.

My father died in the year 1980 of a massive heart attack. My nephew Atul, who is a well-known physician in Pune, was a medical student at that time. Sometime recently, we were discussing about my father’s death. Atul said, “Mama, in those times the doctor’s knowledge was limited. Testing methods were also limited. So, the doctors could not judge the seriousness of his problems. I distinctly remember that he had back pain and was quite uneasy for 4/5 days before the attack.” Similar was the case of my father in law. He died a couple of years earlier than my father. He had a heart attack, was hospitalized and came home after 10 days. A few weeks after that, he was told during the follow up visit, that he was now hail and hearty and could now lead normal life. Next day early morning he died of a massive heart attack. Heart attacks are notorious for their behaviour but sometimes it also depends the doctor who is treating, his experience in handling specific cases. Was it a case of wrong judgment by the doctor?

Does it mean that our treatment and our health is based on luck? No definitely not. Doctors have good knowledge. But an individual patient may have some variant of a disease. If the treating doctor has never come across such variants, things can become complex and tricky. Most of the time, we may not take an opportunity for second opinion, even if the disease lingers on. It is sometimes good idea to take second opinion. By doing this we are just dividing the risk.

Honestly speaking, I also do not know how to handle situations discussed. Whenever required go to a good doctor. But one way will be go by the doctor’s reputation.  I know of a friend who decided to go take treatment from a certain doctor because he was near their home. There are far superior doctors available in Pune. Once you find a good doctor who could be a physician, stick to him and go back to the concept of “family doctor”, like we used to have GP’s in olden days. He or she will be your regular doctor, will know about your health in details. Any other health issue from different areas, should be treated through him by different specialists. They will work in tandem and chances of you getting superior treatment improve. Of course, the best doctor is NO doctor! But this can be only in our wish list!

 

 

Moving Ranges Of Diabetes!

Don’t be blinded by comments about changing values for diseases, keep an open eye and ear!

“Now the US doctors admit that HbA1C value in between 7 to 8 is normal, this mean that if the sugar level is 250 then it is normal. If mean of PP and Fasting is 250 then you are no more diabetic.”

This is a news item which has taken many by surprise. Whenever such news items are published there is a hue and cry that Pharma Companies are joining hands with Doctors, to fleece the general population. This was a reaction sometime back when it was declared by researchers blood pressure values are 120/80 are sacrosanct. Anything above 80 as well as 120 is to be treated as a person with elevated Blood Pressure.

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There was a lot of noise, a lot of articles and a lot of resistance to these findings. How are these findings to be treated? How do scientists reach these conclusions? These findings are based on study of very large number of patients with different backgrounds, ethnicity, income levels, age, gender and so on. Similar methods have been followed over the years. The research also studies the effects of such values on the populace in general. In pre-computer days collecting and compiling such data was a nightmare because all this was done manually. After data collection there was statistical analysis, graphs and charts. This really took a long time. Hence changing patterns of such values were difficult to find and declare; probably time it took to find the changes, one more change may have already happened. But with advent of computerization and special software, all such important analysis can be done really fast and trend of what is happening in real life can be seen much earlier than manual methods. So, we might see such changes declared regularly.

As these limits of the Upper and Lower BP are shrunk, people want to blame it on business side of medical and pharmaceutical industry. Some say, it is done so that more people will need more medicines. Doctors are just awaiting the opportunity. But I have a different say in this. In every field in the world, there are unscrupulous people but to say that everybody in the system is unscrupulous, will be incorrect. Doctors will not just prescribe a drug, just because it is available. The R&D fraternity is doing their analysis based on data collected from thousands of patients. If that data indicates reducing the range for high BP tag, so be it! This is based on analysis, found in real patients in real life. Hence the medical associations have declared new set of values.

In case of diabetes, apparently the new research has established that HbA1C value of an individual can be between 7.5 and 8 instead of previously declared values of 6 to 6.5! Now people will not make noise or shout why this has been changed. With this change in values, the number of people requiring diabetic medicines will be drastically reduced and hence there is NO nexus between pharma companies and doctors! If people have to challenge any findings, then they should do so in either case. This is good because this challenge and questioning will enhance the quality of research further.

There is another case of cholesterol value. Till recently it was said that to be in danger zone, the cholesterol value was to be above 200! But new research says that cholesterol is no more a bad boy, so Statin sell will go down; research says simply don’t bother about cholesterol. This is the greatest benefit of computers in medical field; the research, data collection and analysis are done very fast, thereby doctors will know quickly about the moving targets of the so-called danger zone. No noise was made in this case too!

On the subject of research, I am always surprised that people are not comfortable about analysis and values, treatment and their side effects when Allopathy treatment is discussed. But in other pathy’s, I have not heard of any research carried out over a period of long time. Still nobody raises any voice, nor does anyone challenge the treatment. Nobody discusses anything about no research being carried out. Why this apathy against challenging other pathys? Why not raise any doubts? Allopathy uses most modern techniques of research, they spend huge amounts of funds on research. But we raise voice! For other pathy’s, we accept them as they are and many a time sing paeans of the glory of those pathy’s. Though we know that there is hardly any research done, if at all!

What should we call this reaction from humans? Is it hypocrisy? Is it abnormal thinking? Is it a typical behaviour like a mother who ignores many faults in her favourite child?  I feel that this not a rational behaviour but it can be treated like going to a psychiatrist. They find solace in other pathy’s when Allopathy does not work. There are bound to be many cases where Allopathy may not work at all! But in some of these cases, other pathy’s may work! For example for Jaundice there is no drug in Allopathy but an Ayurvedic drug Liv 52 works. We should choose the pathy, that really cures and not go by here say!

I will sign off with a story of a highly educated professional, working at director level in industry, for many years. His wife is not keeping well for sometime. She just manages her own personal day  to day chores. They have a big staff at home round the clock as our friend is required to travel a lot. Every 5/6 months the lady is taken for he “cleansing” treatment, whatever it means, of alternate medicine for a week. She rejuvenates and is back, needing support round the clock from the day she is back! What that treatment does only our friend knows, he claims she is good now; honestly, friends and family don’t see any change

So don’t be blinded by any pathy but at least believe in Allopathy which does lot of research and helps the humanity to improve our general health. The results are well known in the last 50 to 70 years! Doubting Thomases don’t value add!

Mirror, Mirror on the wall!

Body and mind both should be equally beautiful and healthy; so be careful when you achieve it for the body!

Mirror!

There is a common saying that “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” which means beauty doesn’t exist on its own but is created by observers. This famous quote can help you remember that a beholder is someone who sees or otherwise experiences things, becoming aware of them.

Even at my age, if someone says “Pramod, you don’t look your age and  look smart”, I feel nice from within! It is a natural human tendency and expectation to be a looker. Of course, everyone’s definition of looking good is different and humans try their best to achieve it by means like make up, exercise and some try to follow crash diets. Some of the common factors of defining beauty are height (more the better), Colour (fairer the better), Long Hair (not so sure these days what is better!), white teeth and so on. But most important aspect that I observe these days, has become a person’s weight in proportion with the height. Too fat a person or too thin a person is looked down! This is the point that came to my mind today, when I read a news item in today’s newspaper.

A 33 year old woman, got herself treated for obesity. She was treated by a doctor in an institute. During this period, she was regularly given enema, which she was told to continue even after going back  home. The process was called naturopathy! She was on a diet of jaggery and lime water for two months! During this period, she was also given a potion and her last 35 days were only water! End result, now she cannot walk, talk or even sit properly. The naturopathy doctor when asked, said that the patients who don’t follow treatment properly at home, can have issues and brain damage is possible! No lime water, water or secret potion containers mentioned these side effects about brain damage! The woman is now afflicted with brain damage. Irreversible? Only time can tell.

Is each person’s body same? Is each persons metabolism rate same? Are their values like blood-sugar, hemoglobin, BP same? Are their weights same? Then how the same treatment can be given to different people. When someone questioned if the potion was poisonous, the doctor said potion consists of lemon grass and water. So, what was so secretive about the potion? Why was the family not told about the contents of the potion?  She was already being given lime water, lemon grass tea could have been given separately. But one can charge any price when you call it a secret potion. Are people so desperate, that they do not understand that surviving on lime water and such things for two months is almost impossible. Is becoming a person with normal weight that important? If your weight is causing serious health issues, then it is essential to control it drastically, under “proper” medical guidance. Unknown remedies should be not be attempted.

These days, I see a trend where there are diet experts by dozens, guiding people to become slim, trim and beautiful. But are they real experts, some are great at marketing, and most of them are not doctors. Do they really understand the meaning of the treatment they are suggesting? I know about a person who was ill with kidney related issues. He was told that he should weigh certain food items he was expected to take every day, to maintain the salt levels. He initially did not understand the meaning of this. He deviated slightly but the deviation resulted in body water being retained and in seven days his weight grew by a kilo each day. He then went to the hospital where the doctors explained to him the issue. They corrected things and sent him home. He over corrected what he was doing. End result was he started losing weight by a kg a day! He again went to the hospital and doctors again, corrected things. They explained to him the importance of salt levels which needed exact weighing of certain food intake. Finally, he managed to eat and drink exactly as suggested by the doctors. He overcame his health issue, finally. Ok, this is an extreme case but this is just to show you what can go wrong when you do not follow instructions given by experts; as against this we follow instructions of non experts, to the last T, many times.

There is another theory circulating. To have glowing skin, and in general to have smart skin, and to remain healthy one must drink at least three liters (or some such figure) of water, every day. This theory is told by some people very emphatically. It again boils down to the same thing. Our body is designed to handle body requirements correctly. In summer, we drink more water and in winter less. Due to certain body conditions, we feel thirstier, even in winter e.g. diabetes. So where did the figure of 3 liter come from? How can it be same for everybody? A friend of mine who has recently gone through a heart event, has been told by the doctor to ensure that he does not drink more than one liter of water every day. Should everyone go by 3-liter theory?

To remain healthy there are methods that need to be followed; these are complimentary procedures to looking beautiful, looking smart, good and healthy. But being good and healthy in mind and as a person is equally important if not more! A person who is always smiling looks most appealing! For a lady with a beautiful smile, she need not bother to wear her jewelry, her smile is her best ornament! A little plump woman with a beautiful small is lovely! A person’s good deeds and mind  are that persons best friends along with that persons healthy body.

So whatever physical methods one follows, should be under medical advice. If not, the results sometimes can be devastating as in case of the lady mentioned above. Doing exercise and following healthy life style is no doubt very important. But sometimes, people overdo it, do it incorrectly, do it very rigidly. Life is beautiful, don’t get stressed out in pursuit of becoming beautiful. Because crash diet courses are done for ¾ months. Once they are over, many people binge on food and come back to their normal self, physically! And the vicious circle continues.

So, don’t worry too much! People are going to judge you by your overall demeanor and not if you are fat or thin! So be a good person and feel happy about it. There is no crash course for being a happy person! So, there is no reversal of how you are!

Friends, now you decide which category you are in, the saying at the beginning or the saying below!

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Voodoo Death!

Don’t break too many rules with impunity!

Last week an event took place in Pune in a major hospital. A 25-year-old was being treated in the ICU. She was shifted from a small private hospital where she had undergone a surgery, and things started getting out of control! The doctor who did the surgery but realized the limitations of his own and the hospital. Unfortunately, things had veered so much out of control that the lady could not survive and died. This news item came in a leading newspaper and then it became viral. Initial information was, “So and so hospital tries to cure by performing rituals by a God man!” The lady had died of multiple organ failure!

There are many issues. First is that this ritual was performed in an ICU of the major hospital. Secondly the ritual was performed by a “God man” in the presence of the doctor who had treated the patient before shifting her to the big hospital. A video was allowed to be taken inside ICU where hospital nursing staff was partially seen in the video! Initial newspaper report gave importance to the name of the hospital and it appeared as if the large hospital allowed the ritual to be performed in ICU.

So many things have gone wrong in this event that it becomes difficult whom to blame. First and foremost is the ritual! How can a trained doctor allow this, that too in someone else’s hospital? He just took a decision to do it. Second is the psychology! Probably the patient’s health had reached the point of no return. So, the act was performed in desperation! Unfortunate part is that the patients 20-year-old brother was the only relative present and doctor apparently asked him if it was ok to perform the ritual. The immature person allowed this but he himself took the video of the event! How can you allow videography in a hospital room where the patient is on the death bed? The godman performed the ritual with impunity as if it is a daily event for him. It is desperation which leads to such rituals being performed as a last resort. It is a tricky thing to pass judgment on these things.

One event and see how many wrong things have been done! Is it the problem with our society? Is it in our DNA? When I point out something which is not good in our society, some of my friends get disturbed. But I feel that once in a while we should look into mirror and be reflective. The sequence starts with God man’s ritual. It is well proven that these rituals have no effect on events in our life. Still we keep on doing the same. It is illegal to perform such rituals but we don’t care.

Who should be going in an ICU? Why a patient is kept in ICU? Intensive Care Unit is an area in any hospital where critical patients are looked after. It is equipped to handle all type of emergencies that may crop up during the treatment. To me it is an area where “nobody” should be allowed to go in except may be a person who is doing the work of an attendant. But what happens in real life? We crowd the area, we go and meet the patient even though we may be carrying some infection like cough and cold. If an unexpected person goes to see a patient in ICU, excitement may get generated. In a patient who is critically ill, excitement is not good and it can affect the patient’s health. On top of this a video was taken inside ICU! Are you trying to capture last moments of a dying patient?

Allowing this event to happen was definitely hospitals failure. There are systems and processes about who is to be allowed inside ICU area? How could there be three outsiders in that room? Of course, part of the blame is with us too! We must meet the patient, irrespective of the health condition. We will do anything and everything to get the entry. What about the Doctor who was present? This doctor’s hospital had handled the main surgery, so he was very much aware of what had gone wrong! For what he did, does he not deserve disciplinary action from the authorities? Why his license should not be revoked? Will he go scot free and keep on doing what he has done?  Newspapers also have equal responsibility in this blunder. Their first reporting indicated as if the large hospital performed this ritual. It was someone else who came and managed to perform it without the knowledge of the authority. From next day reporting changed but it is a public relations nightmare created by press due to incorrect reporting! This is totally unacceptable.

When will our society come out of this backward-looking thought processes? People may justify and say that it was the last desperate attempt to bring the patient out of difficult health condition; for some it is like going to a psychiatrist! But to me, in all this affair the doctor is the main culprit, as far as I am concerned. I will tell you an event that happened in Mumbai.

In a government hospital in Mumbai, a lady was being advised by a doctor during her pregnancy. This doctor also had her own private hospital. She convinced the patient to have delivery in her private hospital. The lady died during the delivery, as complications came up and her hospital was not equipped to handle complications. The hospital was situated in a hilly terrain and approach roads were in poor condition. So, shifting the lady during complications was next to impossible. The family of the patient took the doctor to court. The doctor argued that the lady was a tricky patient; she weighed 120 kgs. So, chances of complications were very high; death of that lady was not surprising to the doctor. The judge asked the doctor one simple question. When you knew that the case was complicated, why did you ask the patient to come to your private hospital, which was not equipped to handle emergencies. Doctor had no answer. She was jailed!

Friends, let us not do things that are not correct. Let us not look at everything for personal benefit. Let us make a better society, come out of retrograde thought process. Let us keep the traditions but apply scientific thought when we follow them. Meeting sick person is ok but meeting very sick person who is in ICU is not Ok! Let all professionals take modern scientific view of the situations rather than looking through old thinking and continue with old unproven non-scientific ways. All these actions will make a better society. It’s not only about the death of the lady but Voodoo death of the whole system!

Strange are the ways!

A look at strange behavior of people!

InternetGenie

 

 Pramod somehow managed to make Internet Genie run at the high speed that was expected of him. Genie as usual started narrating a story. He started with a question, “Pramod today I am going to share some incidents and I want you honest answer, Ok?” Pramod knew that if he uttered a word, Genie would slip out of his control and system will hang! So Pramod did not give any reply to what Genie asked.

As usual Genie kept on talking. Pramod, when you were in school, there used to be a  Cricket commentator called Vizy, Maharaj kumar of Vijaya Nagaram. If there were an award for most boring commentator, he would have won it hands down. You were listening to the commentary and Vizy was telling some boring story on the lines of, “In 1936, when I was in England…” he kept on talking and talking. In between 2/3 times you heard sudden crowd noise in the background. Vizy kept on talking, then his co commentator suggested, “Vizy should we update our listeners about today’s match?” He said, “Ok, I will update.” He coolly said, “In the meanwhile India has lost three wickets!” Pramod, was it not a strange way to handle the situation? Did Vizy forget that he was there to explain the match to listeners and not talk only about his nostalgia?

Pramod, this incident is a bit serious! You were chatting to a friend who had gone on a holiday to Europe, along with a group of friends! When you asked how the tour was? He said, “Fantastico!” Obviously, they had visited Italy too! Then he told you about St Moritz, Lucerne and many such lovely places. All in all, they were extremely happy with the experience! You had heard that there was a mishap on the tour. So, you asked about it. He said, “Oh! So and so died as he had a stroke and hemorrhage on the bus while we were in the middle of nowhere!”  My worry is about “Fantastico”. How can one say that tour was Fantastico when someone from the group died! Pramod, was it not a strange way to react to a sad event?

Pramod, this is even stranger issue as it was the way things were handled by a group of Professionals. A friend of yours had a massive heart attack; next day doctors declared that patient’s heart was working at 18/20%. Doctors said that even if he survived, he would be left completely bed ridden. Next strange action was that he was put on a ventilator for 3 weeks. Obviously nothing was improving. Then they took a decision to perform the bye pass surgery and convinced the family how it is essential! Next day the surgery was performed. Result. Doctors came out and said, “ Surgery is successful!” After four hours they declared, “The patient died; his body could not handle the surgery!” Pramod, is this not a very strange way of handling the situation? That too by professionals. They performed the bye pass surgery only from commercial angle!

Pramod, last one is even stranger. A person died and he was a non believer. Cremation was done without any religious stuff. Then you were told that there  will be pooja on 13th day. This was a surprise to you. When you went for pooja, you found that there was a big religious stuff planned. Thoughts about the person who died and his immediate family be damned! The reason, there was a marriage in the extended family in a couple of months. The dark shadows formed because of death were to be thwarted. Who cares about the thought process of the person who died? Pramod, can anything be stranger than this? Tell me why people behave in such a strange way?

Pramod, I want your reply on this as I know you have strong views!! Pramod just could not keep quiet. He said, “Genie, you have told me so many incidents, I have to give you an explanation, incident wise.  Ok, Vizy was an old guy and in his own world. That a few wickets fell in between did not really matter. But in the case of European tour, how can the response be Fantastico?  Tour must have been terrible, post the death of a person from the group! The response should have been “Europe was good, but we had a very sad experience due the death of a friend on the tour”! In the case of the heart patient, the doctors should have advised the family that nothing more could be done. They should have allowed the patient to die peacefully! In the last incident, if people cannot honour the wishes of the dead then I don’t know what type of family are they?”

With this statement Pramod broke the golden rule of silence that Genie had locked him in.  At that instant Genie slipped out of Pramod’s grasp. Genie’s speed became equivalent of 2 G and the system hung!  Genie could not help but make a passing remark before escaping. “Pramod I agree with you, but what has world come to! Is there no humanity left?”

 

Ego or Maniac 

Unexplained behaviour pattern by professionals is difficult to understand!

After I heard a story about a person, I am not sure whether that person has a large ego or he is a maniac; maybe he is an egomaniac! This is what happened. One day a gentleman received text message, in our city Pune, from traffic police. We have a system, if you break traffic rules, the cameras placed at strategic locations in certain busy areas automatically take your picture. With vehicle details captured, a text is sent to you with the photograph in action, and challan for the fine, in this case Rs.250/. Our man was caught on camera but he was using his son’s two-wheeler hence the text message went to his son. His son paid off the fine, online, and next day he casually mentioned the incident to his father. His father said how can they know that I had broken the law, I did not have any interaction with police. So, his son showed him the text with photo!  

This is where the real story starts. First let me tell you the background of the person. He is senior gynecologist, my age, a reputed person in the society. The next day he met his gang who take morning walk together every day, and have their cuppa post walk. During the tea session, he told the story to others and was extremely agitated. He said how they can fine me for just standing on those white lines. I am sure, that he did not want to be “aware” of the concept of Zebra crossing! He felt that the government is looting the people under the garb of discipline. When he showed the photo to the friends, one of them said, “You are the only one standing on Zebra crossing, others are all behind”. He was so upset that he asked his friends, ” Tell me alternate route so that I don’t have to pass through that area, with cameras. I will make sure I will never pay the fine again. In fact, it was a big mistake that my son paid the fine!” He was told by friends, “Don’t change the route, simply follow the basic rules!” He said no way he can do that, heavens will not fall if I stand on those white lines. 

What would you call such a person? Why is so angry against basic thing like self-discipline? Is it because of his big fat ego? Or is he a maniac which means  that he has a specific type of mental abnormality or obsession? Or is he an ego maniac meaning a person who is obsessively egotistical or self-centered?  

If it were only ego, I would expect that good offices would have prevailed with a bit of pampering of the ego.  His friends were just suggesting that a highly educated person like him should be the role model to all. As a doctor he is a leader in the society. If he had said something after road rage or some altercation or an argument with police, it would be understandable though not acceptable. His son paid the fine indicates that the progeny is behaving normally and doing fine so nothing in DNA.  

A professional like him cannot be a maniac, I am confident. This would have been known to all, had it been the case. But can be termed as ego maniac! Too much self-centered, very high self-esteem and person with an attitude are the terms that can define such a person. Where does the world go if an  educated professional has this attitude?  

Anyone breaking law is not acceptable. But did the doctor achieve something with this behavior? I do not visualize any apparent gain. There was no interaction with any human in this episode. Is lack of interaction bugging him? That he was caught unawares is also bugging him! If a policeman had been present and pointed out to him the incorrect action, the doctor would have probably bull dozed the policeman into letting him get away.  An illiterate person does not know the rules so he may break it. He would not generally break rules once it is pointed out to him. Our man brazenly challenges the law; but does he have guts to challenge it in court of law?  

Do we come across many such people in life? Honestly not many, but what could be the genesis of this thought process in humans? Can this be the superiority complex? This can happen in a smallish group of people, if somebody does far better than others in life. Or it can also happen due to perceived success in life. What is the definition of better? What is the definition of success? A lot of money, a lot of political clout? Or What? Is it better? Or being a good human being is better? But if we take the case of our doctor, there may be hundreds of such people in our city who have reached their success station in life. Why did our doctor become this way? Is there something skewed in his persona? Could it be due to some specific incident in his life’s earlier phase? How does his family handle him or even tolerate him? Maybe there is no option!  

We can only pray to Him that our doctor does not become role model to anyone! I also pray to God to “cure” him of his issues; honestly it is embarrassing to see people behave so differently!

 

  

 

Pet the Whale!

Look for the real things in life and try to enjoy THE moment!

When I heard Joel Sartore say, “Pet the Whale”, while giving a lecture on whales photography, I honestly did not understand the meaning of the line. Meaning of Pet is “stroke or pat (an animal) affectionately”. But when he explained it, I understood the real meaning of the same. In fact I understood the meaning of life in that one sentence. He is an expert photographer with many contributions in magazines like National Geographic! His job and profession is to take photographs. He was explaining about an expedition where other people were also there. These people were on the expedition to see the whales from close quarters! Sartore continued with his job of taking photographs. Others also started taking videos, photos of the whales. When they came back to the shore, our friend asked the whale watchers, “Did you pet the whale?” All said,” No, we were busy taking photos and videos!” This is where they lost the plot. They had gone to watch whales from close quarters, and even to touch the whales if they came close enough. Whales did come near the boat where people could have patted or touched the whales. That was once in a lifetime opportunity. Our friends kept themselves busy taking photos and videos, and lost a great opportunity!

Many times we take such approach to life. Instead of absorbing the particular moment of enjoyment or glory, we tend to do things which could have been done later or need not have been done. Whale watching group had a golden opportunity to see the whales from close quarters and maybe even pet the whale, touch the whale. But they lost such a great opportunity in view of the posterity, to have photos and videos! We sometimes miss out in judging what is more valuable.

In another incident  Sartore and his wife had decided that they will share the experience of their first child’s birth. He was in the labour room for the event but photographer in him took precedence. Instead of sharing the experience, with doctor’s permission he started clicking away. At the end of the event he rethought the whole thing. The great joy of sharing the experience of the birth of the child was lost! For their second child he took only one photo of the new child!

Our engineering college had a boat club. One of our friends was so competitive that his thoughts were always about racing and beating everyone, whichever boat he used. Competitive spirit is good but there are other joys of boating, singing, doing picnics or taking girls for moonlight boating! The atmosphere at the boat club was fantastic but our friend could never enjoy and soak himself in the atmosphere! 

With advent of technology we have formed groups of friends from alumni, office, colony and others on WhatsApp. The idea of these groups is to share with each other some interesting things and exchange views and ideas. But this never happens and most cases the plot is lost to  forwards that are sent. These forwards are on all the subjects in the world from magical remedies to cure cancer, how our ancestors had more knowledge than google and recipes for saving India from bad old enemies. The basic idea is that from our houses, where ever they are, we should be able to chat instead of face to face discussion. But where have we reached? If used well this tool could be really fun but… 

With the advent of camera in cell phones in last 10 years, people have lost the urge of enjoying life in the conventional sense! When young or old people go for holidays, for parties, for picnics, main thing they want to do is take photos or selfies instead of soaking themselves in whatever they are doing! Selfie shooting has turned into a dangerous game because people get so much involved, that some have fallen to death in the sea or from the mountains. Why has this happened? What is the big deal in selfies? The idea of soaking into atmosphere is becoming foreign to people. Their need to share on WhatsApp and Facebook whatever they are doing, is much stronger than the real enjoyment! 

What is the solution? When we go out for food, enjoy the food and ambience and people. When lovers meet don’t look into own cell phone screens! Life is beautiful  if you look into each other’s eyes. When you go for a walk, listen to chirping of birds and watch Sun rising from behind the hills. The headphones in your ears block this chirping! While talking on phone during morning walk, you will miss out on Sunrise! Last two years, I have been lucky. First heavy showers of the monsoon came during my morning walk. I literally soaked in the rain, no pun intended! I saw a few young people trying to stand in the shade or using an umbrella! They missed out on life’s small but important pleasures. Folks, do the things  like enjoying the picnic, dancing in the disco, meeting old friends! For such joys of the life the whole path you travel is important not something that you catch up in the camera!