Ego or Maniac 

Unexplained behaviour pattern by professionals is difficult to understand!

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After I heard a story about a person, I am not sure whether that person has a large ego or he is a maniac; maybe he is an egomaniac! This is what happened. One day a gentleman received text message, in our city Pune, from traffic police. We have a system, if you break traffic rules, the cameras placed at strategic locations in certain busy areas automatically take your picture. With vehicle details captured, a text is sent to you with the photograph in action, and challan for the fine, in this case Rs.250/. Our man was caught on camera but he was using his son’s two-wheeler hence the text message went to his son. His son paid off the fine, online, and next day he casually mentioned the incident to his father. His father said how can they know that I had broken the law, I did not have any interaction with police. So, his son showed him the text with photo!  

This is where the real story starts. First let me tell you the background of the person. He is senior gynecologist, my age, a reputed person in the society. The next day he met his gang who take morning walk together every day, and have their cuppa post walk. During the tea session, he told the story to others and was extremely agitated. He said how they can fine me for just standing on those white lines. I am sure, that he did not want to be “aware” of the concept of Zebra crossing! He felt that the government is looting the people under the garb of discipline. When he showed the photo to the friends, one of them said, “You are the only one standing on Zebra crossing, others are all behind”. He was so upset that he asked his friends, ” Tell me alternate route so that I don’t have to pass through that area, with cameras. I will make sure I will never pay the fine again. In fact, it was a big mistake that my son paid the fine!” He was told by friends, “Don’t change the route, simply follow the basic rules!” He said no way he can do that, heavens will not fall if I stand on those white lines. 

What would you call such a person? Why is so angry against basic thing like self-discipline? Is it because of his big fat ego? Or is he a maniac which means  that he has a specific type of mental abnormality or obsession? Or is he an ego maniac meaning a person who is obsessively egotistical or self-centered?  

If it were only ego, I would expect that good offices would have prevailed with a bit of pampering of the ego.  His friends were just suggesting that a highly educated person like him should be the role model to all. As a doctor he is a leader in the society. If he had said something after road rage or some altercation or an argument with police, it would be understandable though not acceptable. His son paid the fine indicates that the progeny is behaving normally and doing fine so nothing in DNA.  

A professional like him cannot be a maniac, I am confident. This would have been known to all, had it been the case. But can be termed as ego maniac! Too much self-centered, very high self-esteem and person with an attitude are the terms that can define such a person. Where does the world go if an  educated professional has this attitude?  

Anyone breaking law is not acceptable. But did the doctor achieve something with this behavior? I do not visualize any apparent gain. There was no interaction with any human in this episode. Is lack of interaction bugging him? That he was caught unawares is also bugging him! If a policeman had been present and pointed out to him the incorrect action, the doctor would have probably bull dozed the policeman into letting him get away.  An illiterate person does not know the rules so he may break it. He would not generally break rules once it is pointed out to him. Our man brazenly challenges the law; but does he have guts to challenge it in court of law?  

Do we come across many such people in life? Honestly not many, but what could be the genesis of this thought process in humans? Can this be the superiority complex? This can happen in a smallish group of people, if somebody does far better than others in life. Or it can also happen due to perceived success in life. What is the definition of better? What is the definition of success? A lot of money, a lot of political clout? Or What? Is it better? Or being a good human being is better? But if we take the case of our doctor, there may be hundreds of such people in our city who have reached their success station in life. Why did our doctor become this way? Is there something skewed in his persona? Could it be due to some specific incident in his life’s earlier phase? How does his family handle him or even tolerate him? Maybe there is no option!  

We can only pray to Him that our doctor does not become role model to anyone! I also pray to God to “cure” him of his issues; honestly it is embarrassing to see people behave so differently!