Life is full of work, pleasure, projects and everyday things. In some cases, everything is straightforward, but in many, that is not so. Sometimes we think that the situation is going out of hand. There are options; we give up, or we accept fait accompli. But there is an option to think out of the box and observe the current situation. We can learn from the errors. We need to think and rethink.
There is a famous story of shoe salesmen. A salesman is sent to a large island to sell shoes. After one week, he sends a message to the headquarters. Nobody wears shoes; please do not send any containers. He is called back to the head office immediately. Another salesperson was sent to that island without any details about the first salesperson. Within one week, he sent a message back to headquarters. Nobody wears shoes here; please rush at least three container loads.
The situation was precisely the same for both the salespeople, but their response was diagonally opposite. The first person accepted the fait accompli! But the second person looked at the situation as a great opportunity. He converted the chance he got and was a great success in life.
There is a tendency for people always to talk about problems at home, at work, with family. Life is full of problems and issues. Life is not something that happens according to a planned schedule. It is a procession of unexpected opportunities.
Why do people think negatively? How to change our mindset into a positive attitude? Consider the current Indian cricket team. One thing they have definitely understood in sports, there is always a possibility that you may lose a game or two. But that is part of life. You win some, and you lose some is the attitude that one should take in life. The Indian team was touring Australia last year. In the first game, they were all out for 36 in the second innings. They promptly lost the game. Experts said that India will be thrashed 4-0 in the series. But nobody told the Indian team that they were not supposed to win the series! They did, despite Kohli being away after that match and other senior Bowlers being injured. How did this happen? The new and young players got an opportunity of a lifetime, and they grabbed it with both hands.
There is a story of a couple which is a real-life example of how positive thinking can transform your life. One of the first things the wife noticed about her husband was his positivity – the “kick in his step.” The husband was practising gratitude daily and cultivating other positive emotions thanks to her husband’s philosophies. He shared those philosophies with his wife, and both attended the “Unleash the Power Within” course, where the wife learned vital strategies she could use to change her mindset and start living the life of her dreams.
From helping you to stay connected with your partner by assisting you in developing an excellent organisational culture, positive thinking takes your life to the next level. Like the wife, thinking optimistic may not come naturally to some, but you will see results when you take the time to apply these strategies to your everyday life.
How to think positive? The first step is realising it’s all up to you. When you become the master of your emotions, you can always determine your mindset regardless of outside influences. Taking responsibility for how you think, act and feel, allow everything in your life to fall into place. Sometimes you can’t control life’s events – but you can control how you react to them. Once you empower yourself to change what is in your control – you – then you are ready for various ways to embrace the power of positive thinking.
Have you noticed that when you’re having a bad day, your body language shows it? You slump over in your chair, have a hard time making eye contact with others and do things like cross your arms when you feel uncomfortable. You stop being mindful and allow your environment and circumstances to control you. This is not a powerful stance; it tells those around you that you are uneasy, angry or sad and want to be left alone. This creates a feedback loop as your own poor posture reinforces your poor mindset.
Positive thinking is as much about your body as it is about your brain. Take control of your physiology by taking pride in how you present yourself, and project positive thinking. Work on your posture to give those around you non verbal cues to feel solid and cheerful and that you are ready to listen to them. Try to nip nervous habits, like fidgeting or twirling your hair, in the bud. This technique requires you to observe yourself; as soon as you catch yourself giving in to a nervous tic or starting to slump, straighten up. As you hold your body in a power pose, positive thinking will be able to flow more freely.
Adjusting your physiology is only one part of the puzzle; it’s critical to catch the other negativity trigger in its opening stages as well. Your mindset governs what thoughts flow through your head and how you feel and react to each one. If your attitude is poor, everything around you is going to seem all the worse.
For example, you are at the airport and are unnecessarily delayed while going through security. Then the airline attendant checking you in is rude to you. Another airline worker overhears, apologises and offers to upgrade your ticket up to business class.
Once you are in the air, are you fixated on the hassles you faced in the airport, or are you full of gratitude for your spacious seat and a complimentary cocktail? Do you think of the delay as wasted time or as a way to take time and reconnect with yourself? Do you automatically revert to the power of positive thinking, or do negative thoughts take over?
Think of someone who’s had a profound impact on your life. It can be a close friend, family member or someone you have never met, like a celebrity, professional athlete or renowned entrepreneur. Or maybe a para Olympics Gold Medal winner! What motto does that person live by? Have they been able to unlock extraordinary lives due to their positive thinking habits?
Chances are that they use the power of positive thinking to find the success they seek – and you can, too. When you feel yourself falling into harmful habits and can’t quite seem to figure out how to think positively, pull up a quote from someone you respect. Read it and determine how you can best embody it. You can even write it down and post it somewhere you will see it often, such as on the refrigerator or on the side of your computer screen. If the person you admire is someone you know and think of as a mentor, even better. Get on the phone and ask them to share some positive thoughts.
In most cases, you can do it! Your motto should be everything is doable! See the image at the beginning of the blog; it will drag you out from a sad way of looking at life! Did I see a smile on your face?